Do you blame the traffic when you’re late? Do you blame others when you’re upset? Do you blame work when you’re feeling stressed?
It’s time to stop blaming everything and everyone else. The responsibility for your stress belongs to one person only – and that person is YOU!
Did you know that nothing in the world can cause you stress, except yourself! That’s right, NOTHING!
We are the cause of our stress, nobody and nothing else. It is our inability to handle the situation that causes our stress, not the situation itself.
But no matter how true this statement is, people still believe that stress is caused by factors outside themselves, such as work, financial troubles and relationships. As a result, they focus all their attention on changing the outer world to gain inner peace of mind, but it can never work that way.
External treatments to relieve stress are like applying a bandaid to a boil, without realising the germ is within. So what is the germ of stress?
There are two contributing factors here: unfulfilled desires and unreasonable expectations.
The average person has numerous desires and expectations. From the moment they wake up in the morning to the time they go to sleep at night, they expect things to be according to what they want them to be.
When things are going well and they get what they want, they’re happy, but the moment something goes wrong, or they don’t get what they want, they’re agitated, stressed. They are constantly riding a roller coaster! This is no way to live life.
So what do we need to do? Firstly, we need to develop a more mature attitude towards life and secondly, we need to offload our baggage (our desires and expectations). When we do these two things, then we will be in a better position to manage our stress.
If you would like to learn more, or have a stressful situation that you would like to discuss, then why not consider a consultation? Clear Thinking offers a FREE Consultation either in person, or via Skype.
